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In my own personal big gay church there is a wing dedicated to those who belong to the Rhythm Nation. These divas got us to think, encouraged us to love and respect ourselves, made us feel sexy as hell and... most importantly, got us to dance!
One such diva?
Demi Lovato.
Confident. Fragile. Powerful. Fearless.
This multi-talented force of nature has been through so much in her short time in the spotlight, she's earned her place among the divas.
Along the way, she's been brutally honest about her failings and challenges. She's shared her truths and helped enlighten the world and her fans.
She's also produced some kick-ass music; energetic and fun. The kind that has your feet moving to the dancefloor whenever and wherever she's played.
The gospel according to her?
Well, here are three from the hip, dropping from her lips.
The Topic: Treatment & Recovery
"I was compulsively overeating when I was eight years old."
"I was just so sick. I thought that orange juice was going to make me fat."
"I don't think there's going to be a day when I don't think about food or my body, but I'm living with it, and I wish I could tell young girls to find their safe place and stay with it."
"I feel like I'm held more accountable to stay healthy now because now I'm a role model to young girls to not have eating issues and to not say, 'Hey, it's okay to starve yourself' or 'It's okay to throw up after your meals' - that's not okay."
"After so long being thin, it was terrifying being heavier. But I am a naturally curvy Hispanic girl. I don't deprive myself."
"I never found out until I went into treatment that I was bipolar."
"One of the reasons I was so unhappy for years was because I never embraced my emotions and I was trying to stay in control."
"I don't let anyone's insecurities, emotions, or opinions bother me. I know that if I am happy, that's all that matters to me."
. "Where I am today... I still have my ups and downs, but I take it one day at a time and I just hope that I can be the best that I can possibly be, not only for myself, but also young people that are out there today that need someone to look up to."
"Never be ashamed of what you feel. You have the right to feel any emotion that you want, and to do what makes you happy. That's my life motto."
"I think scars are like battle wounds - beautiful, in a way. They show what you've been through and how strong you are for coming out of it."
"I think I've definitely had my rock bottom and I think that was probably right before I went into treatment where I said, 'I definitely need help.'"
"In treatment, all of the negative things I did were stripped away and I had to start processing my feelings."
"Recovery is something that you have to work on every single day and it's something that it doesn't get a day off."
"I pray every night before I go to sleep and every morning when I wake up."
"Creativity is what helps me escape a lot of my inner demons."
Here We Go Again - Demi Lovato
Sorry (Not Sorry) - Demi Lovato
Still Alive - Demi Lovato
from the motion picture Scream VI
"I don't have many deal breakers. I've done so much in my life, it doesn't feel right to judge other people."
"Some of my fans have said that because I've been able to speak about my issues, that they're not afraid to speak about theirs, which is an amazing feeling."
"I learned that you go through things, you deal with them and that's what empowers you and ultimately makes you a happy person."
With
Autumn right around the corner, it seems a little late in the season to be
trumpeting a song about summer… but I do believe that Demi Lovato’s latest is the
song of the summer.
It is
the best Katy Perry wanna-be song since Jessie J.’s ‘Domino’.
Written
by Lovato, Alexander Erik Kronlund, Savan Kotecha, Ali Payami and frequent
Perry collaborator Max Martin, ‘Cool’ is, for all intents and purposes, a Katy
Perry song. It’s structurally similar to
many of Perry’s works – the chorus soars, there is that little false stop, that
quiet bridge. Then it’s a matter of the
slower beat, the titillating lyrics and the subject matter (‘Kissed A Girl’). Close your eyes and one can easily imagine
Perry doing this song.
But my
issues with the song don’t stop there.
There’s
the overall production – it feels muted and I’m not sure why. I simply wish it were as sharp and crisp as,
say, a Katy Perry song. It’s like the entire
song is being played from another dimension, one close to the one I’m in, but
not truly ‘here’. Take those guitars, for example. I want them to rip and snarl, instead, they
come off as rather polite.
And
what’s up with that brilliantly-colored cover photo? Yes, it’s very adult. In fact, sadly, it’s almost downright
matronly, making Demi look decades older than her years. I think it’s the hair that throws it off. Or maybe the whole pose; a kind of homage –
Vargas Girl meets 80’s Nagel Woman. But
I don’t think it flatters Demi as much as intended.
Perhaps,
‘all the above’ is why the single is having trouble gaining traction on the
chart. After debuting at #36, it hit #28
before dropping dramatically. It
currently resides outside the Top 40 and is definitely deserving of more.
Okay,
okay. Enough negativity.
Bottom
line? ‘Cool’ is rather irresistible. That
chorus gets in your head, it’s fun deciphering the lyrics and Demi’s vocals are
spot-on, avoiding the shrillness of some her other singles.
Plus, Demi
has been a staunch LGBT ally, and I am in her corner. So, regardless of my many reservations, I
still have to declare ‘Cool’ the summer sweepstake winner.
Here’s
my Summer Playlist for 2014; twenty-seven songs that I listen to over and over
again as I motor about. They make for perfect
road trip music or a musical score to, ummm, score!
I’ve
reviewed most of these in the past few months.
The big surprise? Several of the
songs I initially disliked have grown on me big time. Even the Disney Princesses and Nickelodeon
Queens have won me over and have become guilty pleasures.
Now,
these aren’t in any particular order, but I guarantee if you pull these
together on a playlist, you’ll have the perfect soundtrack for what remains of the
summer.
Happy listening!
Cool Kids
Echoesmith
Reductive
pop (see Quarterflash), but goes down like a vanilla shake. Love singing harmony on the chorus.
Break Free
Ariana Grande
Feat. Zedd
Great little pop song with a bit of substance. Zedd synths it up, old school. Hate the ending.
Tongues
Joywave Feat.
KOPPS
Quirky, silly, fun.
“Speaking in tongues”, indeed.
Do It Again
Royksopp & Robyn
Simple, but unstoppable.
Love this. Every time I hear it, I want it to play again, immediately. Great throb and Robyn nails the vocals.
I Will Never Let You Down
Rita Ora
Smartest pop song of the summer. It’s cribbed from a few sources, but makes
for a wonderful listen.
Aviation High
Semi Precious Weapons
Part of
a whole new breed of power pop. Cryptic,
quirky, and unmistakably cool. Gives one
hope.
Alienation
Morning Parade
See: ‘Aviation
High’.
Transpose
Bad Suns
See: ‘Alienation’
A Little Bit
Faster
Cocktails
Miss Elvis Costello?
He could have given birth to Cocktails, an on the money homage with a
genuine heart – they embody this sound.
Brash, with a garage band esthetic that engages the ear.
Cribbed, but with an authority that makes it their own. Superlative vocals that make me think rock
may not be dead.
Flume
Holding On
A gritty, throwback Stax song grafted onto an eclectic modern production.
I Got U
Duke Dumont
Feat. Jax Jones
Seductively lilting; Caribbean steel drums, a sweet pulse beat,
and perfect vocals.
Habits (Stay
High)
Tove Lo
Saddest song of the summer. Haunting.
A pop nightmare fully realized and captured.
I Walk Alone (JRMX
Club Mix)
Cher
Love this mix; very old school, but wonderfully so.
I Found Out
Bimbo Jones &
Beverley Knight
Classic disco soul, al a the Philadelphia sound, with a modern,
propulsive club beat. Beverley Knight in
perfect diva form.
Rather Be
Clean Bandit Feat. Jess Glynne
Enchanting. Sweet.
Endearing. Great strings. Perfect arrangement. Lovely vocals.
Cheap Sunglasses – RAC Feat. Matthew Koma
More steel drum fun with an Owl City aesthetic. Very 80’s; a modernized Nu Shooz.
Really Don't Care
Demi Lovato Feat. Cher Lloyd
Demi
takes over Kelly Clarkson’s tough pop territory. The vocals, like Clarkson’s can be, are a bit
shrill, but the song’s empowering theme rules the day, so who cares? Sometimes to be heard you have risk being
overbearing.
If I Fall
Cole Plante With
Myon & Shane 54 Feat. Ruby O'Dell
Wistful, plaintive, yearning. Love the message. I am such a sucker for this waifish sort of
dance music.
I'm Not Coming
Down
Martha Wash
Powerhouse diva vocals? Check. Empowering message? Check. Sweet melody? Check? On the mark production? Check?
What more could a gay ask for?
Love Sublime
Tensnake
Feat. Nile Rodgers And Fiora
Silky, slinky, seductive.
Be sure to get the original mix.
This will take you back to the glory days of Chic, in the best way
possible. Sublime, indeed.
Calling All
Hearts
DJ Cassidy
Feat. Robin Thicke & Jessie J
A bit earnest, but delivers the simplest of retro-disco
fun. Jessie J has chops!
Sia – Chandelier
Delivering a searing, aching, over the top vocal, Sia
does Rihanna in her own idiocentric style.
Summer – Calvin Harris
Big, big synths teased higher than a hair hopper’s
dream. As predicted, a perfect summer
theme, despite the novelty vocals.
La La La - Naughty Boy Feat. Sam Smith
A very deep song wrapped around a childish taunt. Great vocals, very unique. A marvelous diss song.
We're getting to the end of June, and I have so much music still to review! Don't worry, I will get to it, but probably not until after the first. In the meantime, here's my take on some of the current contenders for song of the summer. Based on my recent past assessments, I would say things are looking up, as there are more offerings that I like than dislike.
Demi Lovato deserves a big round of applause for her Pride-Positive new video, which is an absolute delight. Also deserving of more than a nod, newcomers Clean Bandit, a rejuvenated and natural-sounding Enrique Iglesias, and the always praiseworthy Bimbo Jones' latest offering featuring lovely diva Beverly Knight. Enjoy!
Hangover
PSY Featuring
Snoop Dogg
Did he really have to go there? Did he really have to rap? And would someone explain to me what exactly
is the appeal of this cartoonish pot-bellied far-eastern wonder? One would have thought that PSY’s fifteen
minutes ended about two minutes into his career, but apparently this novelty artist is in it to
stay.
‘Hangover’
represents his third U.S. top 40 hit, and boy, oh boy, is it annoying. The squawking, vaguely-middle-eastern sax
works as an alarm to wake the listener up after being lulled to sleep by the snooze-inducing,
rap of PSY and Snoop Dogg, while the reggae bed upon which it all rests is as
formulaic as it comes. Clocking in at nearly five minutes, this one wears out
its welcome at the two minute mark – you know, much like PSY himself. “Nothing left to say”, indeed.
I Found Out
Bimbo Jones &
Beverley Knight
This is sort of a time machine in a blender.
There is a whole lot of Michael Jackson/Jackson 5 magic
with merely a whiff of dance floor diva bravado percolating in this
number. It is a unique combination,
unlike anything else currently on the Club Play charts, save Justin Timberlake
and Dead Michael’s ‘Love Never Felt So
Good’.
Beverly Knight’s vocals are quick and skittish, save for
that marvelous, belted build into the chorus while the production is very
reminiscent of Martha Wash’s 1993 solo outing, with that weird scattershot echo
sealing the deal. It doesn’t end up
having quite the impact one would hope, but it is a welcome relief from all the
paint by number stuff floating about out there on the dance floor.
Maps
Maroon 5
So, by my count, Bruno Mars, Nico & Vinz, and now,
Maroon 5, all owe Sting either a co-writing credit or some under the table
royalty checks. ‘Maps’ rips off one of Sting’s signature sounds, though the boys try
to mask their thievery by speeding it up a bit.
The production work here is claustrophobic and junky,
leaving no room or time to breathe. There are no hooks, really, save for the
cascading ‘falling, falling, falling’ part (well, that and the Sting stuff).
There’s something about this that feels a tad workman-like,
even for Maroon 5, who seem hell-bent on getting that Guinness World Record for
the most top 40 hits. That said, this
strikes me as rather stale and tossed off, lacking heart, warmth, and interest
on the part of the group. Could it be
the beginning of ‘good-bye’ for Maroon 5?
Boom Clap
Charli XCX
You might
know British singer / songwriter Charli from her work providing the vocals for brat
rappers Iggy Azalea and Icona Pop. Here,
she is looking for a U.S. hit of her own, aiming squarely at the tween market
with this mindless piece of pop. And it’s
working; it debuted in the top 40 and enjoys a second week there this
week.
The
backing track is a bit of clever pilfering, sounding like something Roxette
would have come up during their heyday. The
lyrics for the verses are actually quite broodingly dark, if a tad grammatically-challenged,
while the Disney-friendly chorus is just as dumb as the song’s title. It does
little for me, but I bet it sends all those tween girls who shelled out good
money to see ‘Fault of Our Stars’
running to iTunes, Mom’s credit card in hand.
Derezzed 2014
Daft Punk Featuring Negin
This
2010 number from Daft Punk’s Original Soundtrack Recording for the remake of ‘Tron’, gets a remake of its own at the
hands of the ever-present Avicii, with vocals added by Negin. It’s slight to begin with, but Avicii (and
Disney’s) tampering seems to have divided the EDM world into two fractions:
those Avicii loyalists who think he can do no wrong and those Daft Punk fans
who feel the vocals destroy the original melody.
The
vocals, pitched high and whiney, are not good– nor are the lyrics, for that
matter, deconstructing (or ‘Dconstructing’, as the kids say) ‘Derezzed’ into a would-be power ballad
with twinkly synth fills. It fails on all fronts. So put me in a third group – the ones who
could care less and simply want it to go away.
Yeah, I know I am not the target audience for this one, I
get that, but I live in a neighborhood full of dudes who are, and this - this
makes me sad for them. Until people stop
celebrating people like Wiz and stop buying into messages as hopeless and valueless
as this: real change is never going to come.
Bailando
Enrique Iglesias Featuring Descemer Bueno
& Gente de Zona
Just
when I was about to give up on Enrique (remember ‘I’m A Freak’?), he comes out with this marvelously joyous bit of
fun. It’s a breath of fresh air.
There’s
a version out there with Sean Paul on it, but this is the one that I ‘heart’. It has great energy, some incredibly sexy
tongue tripping, and an earthiness (thanks to Descemer Bueno and Gente de Zona)
that strips away all the smarminess that
has threatened to obscure Mr. Iglesias’ true talents.
Rather Be
Clean Bandit Featuring Jess Glynne
This is
also rather refreshing. I heard this on
the radio and it grabbed my ear immediately.
Something about it took me back to the days of M People, although Clean
Bandit’s brand of soul is scrubbed squeaky clean and they refrain from packing
their arrangements with excess sound.
Sweet,
plaintive vocals, bright bubbling flourishes of electronica, percussive piano,
and well-placed strings make for a joy ride based on simplicity. Remixed, ‘Rather
Be’ takes off, too; although the density of the arrangements tends to belie
the song’s original while pushing the vocals to the background.
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Don't
Ed Sheeran
Ed
continues to get funky with his bad self.
With ‘Don’t’ he abandons all
pretense of mixing styles. Justin
Timberlake is the territory he has his eye on, which Mr. Sheeran manages to
claim as his own, more or less. Over a
fairly generic hip hop backdrop, Ed drops some sweetly syncopated verses before
riding that lopping, almost-new jack chorus home.
The rap
section overstays its welcome a bit, but no harm. It’s absolutely likable, but so what? ‘Sing’
seemed to signal that this artist was on a unique, singular path, capable of
blending styles like no one else, so I feel a tad cheated. ‘Don’t’
feels like an easy way out, as if Ed simply didn’t want to dig any deeper that
day.
Wasted
Tiesto Featuring
Matthew Koma
This is a bit different for Tiesto, as was his last
near-hit, ‘Red Lights’ (which received
quite a bit of airplay here in the Midwest).
Jangly, and bright, with a steel drum feel, ‘Wasted’ is straight-up pop with a sing-along chorus for all those
alcohol-soaked college kids to enjoy.
Matthew Koma, whom I last heard on RAC’s ‘Cheap Sunglasses’, has a pointed sound
very similar to fun.’s Nate Ruess. Here
he comes across a bit bratty, which given the subject matter seems rather
fitting. The two work well together,
coming up with something that I would never peg as Tiesto in a million
years. Which saddens me, but then,
artists must evolve, even if it means leaving their former selves behind.
Holding Onto
Heaven
Foxes
Zedd’s 2013 hit, ‘Clarity’
served as our introduction to the artist known as Foxes. Her own ‘Youth’
was a song that got a lot of buzz and bubbled under, but never broke huge. ‘Holding’
may change that, but I doubt it.
It’s pleasant
enough, but even with the ache, break, and rasp of her somewhat thin voice, I
don’t hear anything all that special. Remixed,
it is currently climbing the Club Play charts, so it has found an audience,
just not as big of a one as I think she’d like.
Really Don't Care
Demi Lovato Featuring Cher Lloyd
Just in
time for Pride! Be sure to check out the
video for this one; it’s a valentine to the LGBT community.
To tell
the truth, I have not known what to make of Ms. Lovato, even after several
substantial hits and all this time. And, other than creating ear-piercing pop
that sounds great coming out of the speakers in my car – I still don’t.
‘Really’ is a great declaration of
indifference, calculated as hell, but irresistible all the same. I dare you to not succumb to its charms. Cher Lloyd shows up near the end to liven
things up with a rap that actually helps anchor Demi’s put-on defiance. It all works and something tells me we’re going to be hearing
this one all summer.